Six months ago at Café Gratitude in Venice, California — while deliberating between an “I Am Immortal” latte and an “I Am Stellar” blue smoothie — a thought popped into my head and I blurted it out.

“I’m going to stop wasting money on psychics.”

Across the table sat my friend and fellow psychotherapist Sara, with whom I often compared notes on therapists, healers, bodyworkers, psychics, and spiritual teachers. “Totally,” said Sara. “I really can’t hear another prophecy about the man who’s coming and the perfect family I’m going to have with him. I mean, I’m 60 for god’s sake…

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The warrior pose, for those unfamiliar, is a yoga pose meant to instill strength and confidence. After the year we’ve had, it’s also a pose that’s due for an upgrade. We need a new warrior pose for 2021. Something mighty, compassionate, and sustainable — a stance that both soothes and empowers.

I present to you:

Fuck it and it’s okay. This pose can be done sitting, standing, on a Zoom call… or anywhere you have your hands free: With your left hand do the gyan mudra — that’s your “it’s okay” hand (👌) to non-yoga people. And with the other…

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Twenty minutes late, Matt (whose name was changed for privacy) stumbles into my therapy office, dives onto my green couch, stretches out like a Freudian pro, and buries his face in his hands. Matt, a renowned New York wellness entrepreneur, had found me through the intersection of Burning Man and the plant medicine communities — where most of my clients come from. …

The now legendary self-help book “Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear” was crack for my creative insecurity. It wasn’t Elizabeth Gilbert’s fault and it wasn’t exactly mine. We were all doing our best — hers to teach, and mine to receive her wisdom — but I’d like to take responsibility for my part in what happened.

“Big Magic” explodes the age-old image of the tortured artist in favor of “a different way…to cooperate fully, humbly, and joyfully with inspiration.” For a book about writing, “Big Magic” is shockingly full of positivity. So I perceived it as a gift from the…

All you need is the right kind of lovership.

When I was a Hollywood producer, I was friends with a famous actress voted by Esquire magazine to be “The Sexiest Woman Alive.” I remember congratulating her on the accolade and the incredibly hot spread photoshoot that went with it. We laughed about the deliciousness of it all and then, off of her concerned expression, I asked her what she was worried about.

“I'm just wondering,” she said, “is it really true?” Could I really actually be the sexiest woman alive? I mean what about Angelina Jolie?” …

Jane Garnett, LMFT

Psychotherapist and psychonaut specializing in creative freedom @thebananajane

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